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Avoiding the Disastrous Date

Dating is like a roller coaster. You have your ups and downs. There are moments that are thrilling, and there are moments that make you sick to your stomach. However, in the vast majority of cases the wild ride ends up being worth it. Like a roller coaster, we often return again and again - anxiously anticipating the moment when we'll take our seats and let the ride take control until finally we come around full circle only to get off and try again. Why, when we know it may end and we may have to start all over again, do we go on date after date? Are we hoping for a continuous, never-ending ride - or is this just wishful thinking on our parts? Perhaps there is a little of both.

As you probably know there is usually nothing better then getting the date you have been dreaming about with that hot guy you've been looking at for some time. However, there is nothing worse than getting the date and then realizing once you're on it that it's possibly the worst date ever. A bad date with any guy instantly becomes a nightmare - and one that many guys try to escape quickly! There isn't any way of avoiding those bad dates - after all, you don't know it's going to be a bad date until you're actually in it! Instead, the goal is to avoid making a bad date worse.

Of course, what makes a disastrous date really depends on you. If you leave a little 'blooper' during the evening it is quite possible to move past that embarrassing moment - and actually be able to laugh about it later. The problem is in trying to get through the bad date without losing your mind! And, who knows, it may just seem bad at the time… it could end up that you both just got off to a bad start, or a wrong impression, and maybe the date can be salvaged, or perhaps the chance at a better date getting started off on the right foot! All you need to know will be provided in this article - some dating survival tips and a little courage to get into the dating scene.

Never take your date too seriously. If something happens that could be potentially embarrassing then try to do your best to make it laughable. There is nothing greater than a person who can laugh at themselves, or at their mishaps! In many cases - if something embarrassing does happen - people will have a good laugh and then let it go. Don't take it to heart, but laugh it off…let it roll off of you and fall to the floor! Generally it is the person suffering from embarrassment that has problems forgetting what happened…the other person had probably forgot about it in just a few short seconds after it happened.

Stay cool, and if it's just a mild faux pas remember that things will happen…to everyone! How would you react in your date's shoes? If you're lucky he will take it well. So, if the date was great other than this one area then keep hope it could work out.

If the date leaves many things to be desired then the goal shifts from making the best out of it to trying to handle things until you can go home and forget the night ever happened. If you're on a truly horrible date you may feel an urgent need to just get out of it - fast. If the date is truly that bad, and you don't think you can stand the torture any longer, then you should be honest. "Listen up, Jack - let's end this charade and put us both out of our misery!"

I know it doesn't sound like the easiest thing to do, but if you know it's not going to work out then why waste both of your time? Now, if you think he's a nice person then you should remain - but if he's picking his teeth with a fork, sneezing on you, or doing something worse then these things then it's time to pick yourself up and cut your losses.

You should always bring money with you for this reason! Even if you are not supposed to be paying for the date you can still do so if you feel the need to leave early. It's bad enough when you know your date is awful, but there is no need to make it worse by saying you don't have money to cover your share of the bad date.

Dating is a necessary evil to many guys - though it can be fun and interesting. You are going to have bad dates occasionally - it just happens that way. The goal is to take the good experience from every date and keep that with you. One day you'll be able to laugh at your bad dates - whether you were the one making the mistakes or embarrassing remarks or not.

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