Lesbian
and Gay Dating - Should You Date Online?
The internet has opened up the world for so
many people regarding so many things, and the same is true when it comes
to same-sex dating. Remember the days when you had to rely on your gaydar
and hope it wasn't leading you astray? I mean, let's face it; a pass at someone
who's straight could get you anything from a cold stare to a punch in the
nose. So, it takes a lot of bravery to rely on your gaydar alone to make
the first move.
Ah, then there were those blind dates set up
by well-meaning friends. After an agonizing hour of polite dinner conversation
that stretched on and on until the dessert was finished, you realized that
the only thing you had in common with your blind date was that you were both
attracted to the same sex. Unfortunately, that did not include an attraction
to each other.
And then there's the club scene. At least you
won't get decked in a gay club for assuming that your straight conquest might
enjoy some attention, but who has the kind of nerve it takes to approach
a complete stranger, gay or straight? I mean, there could be a significant
other who just stepped over in the next room to play a game of pool. Or you
could become painfully reminded of all of your flaws when your advances are
shot down with that dreaded "as if" look.
If only there were an even playing field, a
place where you could get to know people without any pressure. You could
be yourself, and they could be their self. You could talk for a while, get
to know each other, and then, if things were going well, you could decide
to meet someplace neutral to see if any sparks flew. You could pick prospective
dates based on personality traits, wants, and needs instead of relying on
looks alone.
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Well such a place does exist if you
are open minded enough to give online dating a shot. In the world of online
dating, there are numerous sites that cater to gay and lesbian singles looking
to meet that special someone. You can find great personal ads on top matchmaking
sites such as match.com,
gaycrawler.com and
gaydardate.com. Some sites even cater
toward matching up people who identify with, and are looking to hook up with,
someone who identifies with certain labels. Just check out
butch-femme.com for instance. Here you
will find scores of hot butches looking for a leading lady and vice versa.
Hmmm…I'll be right back. Always got to take a little time to check out
the
butches...
....But wait! Is money
important to you? If so you may want to check out
Date
a
Millionaire...
....Anyway, where was I? Oh yes, online dating. Should
you do it? My answer is this: If you're not already doing it, you're missing
out on a world of opportunity unparalleled in this universe. I mean, if you
go to a club, chances are you'll have maybe 30 to 40 singles to choose from.
But when you date online, you could have hundreds of gay singles right at
your fingertips. Odds are that you'll be able to entice at least one of them
to go out on a date, and who knows, you may be able to book up your weekends
for the next few months.
So, how do you get started? Since most sites
require a subscription, you will first have to subscribe to the dating site
of your choice. Then, you will have to write a profile that other people
can read to see if they're interested in chatting with you, or getting to
know you better. As you can guess, the profile is all important. They say
that you never get a second chance to make a first impression! Well, the
online dating profile is your first - and probably the only - impression
that you will get to make in the online dating world. So, choose your words
and pictures wisely.
Here are just a few tips for creating a great
personal profile:
· Always post a picture. I don't want to
hear any of your whining about privacy and not wanting your picture to get
into the wrong hands. I mean, what can someone do with a picture of your
face? (Please, post a picture of your face only fellas. Leave a little to
the imagination.) Let's be honest. When you browse through profiles, what
do you look at first? The picture? Do you even waste time on profiles without
pictures? Probably not. So, why would anyone else be wasting time going through
hundreds of profiles without pictures. The truth is that most people who
browse through personal ads look at pictures first. Then, if they see something
that they like, they actually read what the person has written.
· Come up with an eye-catching screen name.
Instead of using something generic like f.smith, why not choose a name that
describes you in a creative and memorable way? How about something like
cutelilbutch or blueeyeddevil? Whatever you choose, make sure it is memorable.
Remember, people are going to be looking at profiles other than yours. Make
sure yours stands out.
· Put your best shot into the first sentence
or two of your profile. As humans growing up in the information age, we all
tend to have a very short attention span. So, if you're going to grab someone's
attention you need to do it in the very beginning of your profile.
· Never lie. Okay, if you are a bit chubby,
say so when filling out the description on your profile. And if you only
make $14,000 a year instead of the $140,000 you wish you made, opt for leaving
the space black before giving a false impression. The bottom line is this:
You want to meet these people eventually, right? How are you going to explain
your 50 lb. weight gain that took place in a couple of weeks, or the fact
that you are a jobless CEO with a Pinto instead of a Porsche? You know what?
People don't care if you're not an ideal weight. In fact, I have a friend
who looks only at profiles of girls with chubby in their description. And
most people don't care how much money you make...and, if they do, you don't
want to be with them anyway! However, what most people do care about is being
lied to. So be truthful!
Now that you have all of the knowledge you need
to create a profile that people will remember, all you need to do is wait
for the hits to start rolling in. Just remember to be yourself and not to
book more than one date per night.
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