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When
is it the Right Time for Sex in Your Gay Relationship?
When is the right time for sex? This question
can have quite a few different answers. Obviously this is going to depend
on the men involved, and the goal they are both looking to acquire. If you're
going out clubbing for the night, and are looking for a regulation hottie
to fill your needs, then you aren't going to have to worry about the right
time. Where the right 'place ' will be might be more accurate for your situation!
However, if you are dating and/or in a relationship, and you want to know
when you should have sex for the first time, consider some of these tips
and advice below to help make your decision easier.
If you're dating, and you seriously like the
guy you're dating, and you think he likes you, too, then you are going to
want to consider the timing of sex before you do it. If you sleep with him
the first night it may just give him the impression that is what you are
looking for. If you spend the night telling him you dream of romance and
a relationship, and the next thing you know you're massaging all the right
spots on the way up to your door, that will certainly leave a few mixed signals.
Flirting, kissing, and maybe even a teasing
make-out session could be okay that first night - but the less you do the
better it will be. Make it clear you want to see more of him, but do not
leave him with all you have to offer that first night. You want to start
out slow with your sexual freedoms ... otherwise you may end up with a new
sex toy rather than a boyfriend.
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If you
are looking for a relationship you will want to build a friendship first,
and then find a common ground to build your trust and intimacy on. As good
as sex feels it often complicates things - especially when many relationships
are founded on this wonderful activity. As wonderful as sex is, a relationship
needs much more to stand on if it's going to survive. You will want to base
a new relationship on more than just its physical side!
How long you wait is going to be up to you,
however, I don't advise you wait forever. If you plan to spend your life
with that special guy sexual compatibility is going to be important. If you
love sex and your partner doesn't see the need for it as often as you, this
might cause some problems - especially if you are planning to live
monogamously. You are going to want to 'test the waters' to be sure it is
something that can work out of the both of you, and not something that you
both will live to regret.
A common thing to do with someone you are dating
is to have the date rule. The date rule is simple. You start by talking to
the person you are dating and explain to him you don't want to rush into
anything sexually. If he likes you he will be fine with this. Tell him you'd
like to pick a time frame, or a 'date number' to wait for, until you have
sex. If you decide to have sex after this amount of time has passed, then
that is okay...but it also is okay if at the end of this time you both decide
to prolong the 'waiting period' even longer. For example, you may both agree
to wait for five
dates or six dates - and then see how you feel. If sex happens, it happens
- if not, you both know you're just not ready yet. You could also both agree
to wait for 30 days, and in that time frame have multiple dates. You can
check off your days on the calendar until the 'big day' and once it hits
you're then free to do as you both wish. Keep in mind that once this arrangement
has been made you can still tease one another and keep the excitement level
high within your relationship. Just because you have agreed not to sleep
together for a brief while doesn't mean you cannot show each other how much
you want
to!
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